Before you even start playing, you need a partner you can trust, and that’s regardless of whether you’re interested in a Dominant or submissive role. You need to know the person you’re playing with will respond to your needs, and/or communicate their needs to you.

As we know with online meet-ups, it’s always better to meet in public. There are often casual meets in cafes or pubs where kinksters get together in an everyday space just to chat and catch up (They’re called ‘munches’). There’s no BDSM gear or outfits – it’s all very ‘vanilla’. But it’s a really great space to meet up with other kinksters you’ve met online in a very safe and supportive space.

Join an online community. Social media offers a few options – there are kink themed pages on Facebook you can like, or BDSM peeps on Insta or Twitter. And then there’s a couple of platforms specific to the BDSM and fetish communities, the biggest of which is Fetlife. Online communities may not be perfect – pages on the mainstream platforms are always of threat of some sort of ban or suspension, and Fetlife has some navigation issues – but they can also help you meet people, learn things, find events in your area, and potentially inspire your kinky play.

One thing to make sure of is that you find someone passionate about consent and safety. And come to think of it, that will probably be the topic for my next blog. Both are so connected to a great kink experience, so I think it’s really important to discuss it. It might come sooner than you think!

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